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My History with Divorce

Brie Reyes
By Brie Reyes |Fort Worth, TEXAS

Divorce has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. My biological parents divorced when I was five years old. In my opinion, it was a messy, emotionally complex divorce with child custody issues. I remember the physical and emotional toll it took on my mom. She raised my sister and I as a single working mother for over 5 years before she met her soulmate. Looking back, a mother to a two-year-old, I can’t imagine the pain and anxiety she went through as an international flight attendant, going to work, leaving the country and leaving us for a few days with either her mother or a babysitter. She is truly my super-hero.

My second experience with divorce was in 2010. This time I was an adult child of divorce. My biological father and my much-loved stepmom were getting divorced. It was an eye-opening experience because most people believe that with age and maturity dealing with my parents’ divorce would be easier. In some ways it was; no court-ordered parenting schedule and a more amicable separation and settlement. But it also made it harder in others. I was worried that since my father had always been the breadwinner that my stepmom would be financially destitute.

Our holidays are not Norman Rockwell paintings and I always feel a tinge of guilt for not being able to see ALL my parents and my in-laws, but I love what I’ve learned about strength and the power to forgive from my parents. Both my moms and dads had an active role in my wedding and are a huge part of my son’s life. Nate knows that I have four parents and a new stepmom and that he is loved by all of them.

Being the child of divorce has given me empathy and a tremendous passion for what I do as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst practitioner. I understand the emotional roller coaster that is divorce and have seen up close and personal too many people I care about make poor settlement choices just to get it finished. I feel emboldened to serve as an advocate to protect my clients from destroying their financial future.

Brie Reyes
Brie Reyes |Fort Worth, TEXAS
Brie, an independent investment advisor with 15 years experience, founded Smart Financial Divorce in 2019 after watching several friends and clients go through painful divorces. She saw up close and personal the emotional and physical toll the process took on...Read More
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