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Love is a Four Letter Word: Dog Lover

Sheila Jackson
By Sheila Jackson

“Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole.” ~ Roger Caras

My take on this quote is…”Dogs for a whole life.” Today, I get the privilege of sharing my life with five fury family members.

“Pre pack” life I was a single, working mom raising my son. Bo’s father was an addict and not a consistent part of his life. I filled the role of mom and dad the best I could. Now mind you, I was not a Betty Crocker mom by any stretch of the imagination. A more realistic representation of my life would be that of Mila Kunis in the movie Bad Moms! Girls, can anyone out there relate?

Like most parents, once my son completed his education (and fire academy training) I knew (and was ready) I thought; for the day when he would be on his own. What I did not anticipate was my reaction when he delivered the news that he had accepted a job out of state and would be leaving in a matter of weeks. Up to this point, feelings of separation anxiety, loss or fear of becoming an empty nester had never entered my mind. After all, I had my career, a wonderful new husband, new home and three super cool step-kids. I had it all together and wouldn’t dare let on otherwise. Yea, right.

For 20 years every “correct” choice I made, what I would or would not do had a strong purpose behind it. It all revolved around how it would impact my son. Only later did I come to realize that, although I was proud of how I had put my child first, I had slowly begun to lose my own identity. I questioned my purpose in life. Had I lost my “true north”?

Logically, this was all as it should be – kids are supposed to leave home. It was time for Bo to take off on his Colorado adventure. It was time for me to celebrate more time for myself and give mama a raise! Bo allowed for one more trip together so I would have comfort in knowing where he would be spending the next chapter of his life. It was a fabulous time with my child.

When we returned to Texas, we packed up all of his worldly possessions in a small U-Haul trailer and I waved good-bye. Suck it up, Sheila! You still have loving family, friends, a business to run and outside interests. However, none of this filled the void I was feeling at a cellular level. That pure love – that of how a mother feels for her child. All grown up, a certain look, laugh or a tear from him and I can physically feel my heart swell inside my chest with love. Can anyone relate?

Frequently, parents are excited when they become empty nesters – more freedom, less responsibility, more money to do the things they want to do with their lives. I took a different approach and within four years filled our home with five, yes FIVE…dogs. At number five, my husband Joe jokingly asked (with a tinge of fear in his voice that my answer might not be what he was ready to hear) “Do you think this is it?”

Man’s best friend has (in my case) most certainly become woman’s best friend. My dog family has heightened my awareness to the importance of giving and receiving unconditional love, loyalty and connection. My dogs have filled a void when I couldn’t even identify what was missing! They’ve taught me the importance of opening my heart, and reaching for people and experiences that make my heart swell.

The world teaches us to hide and divide. This practice certainly causes all who do so to struggle and not know why we are feeling so empty and unfulfilled. It’s the unconditional love of “the pack” that got me through the identity crisis I wasn’t even able to articulate at that time my son left home. This love has made me oh so aware that we all could stand to take a lesson from our fur babies and embrace what’s in our heart, for the betterment of our relationships, our businesses and our world.

I hope this will inspire you to reflect, find what makes your heart swell and follow it!

Photo Above Sheila A. Jackson, Son Bo Sutton and Fur Baby Zoe

Sheila Jackson
Inspiring Whole Hearted Living Sheila Jackson is an author, business owner, serial entrepreneur, leadership specialist, motivational speaker, philanthropist, wife, mom, stepmom, dog lover and California girl who now calls the Great State of Texas home. Sheila studied Business Administration at Tarrant County College, Nutrition at Cornell University and Organizational Leadership under the tutelage of the world’s #1 leadership expert, Dr. John C. Maxwell. She is a graduate of AU – Adversity University. Sheila has a passion for helping others recognize that they are not their circumstances and they can achieve their highest potential, with a special emphasis on leadership – leadership with a heart. Before embarking on her own entrepreneurial adventure, Sheila spent 16 years working her way up from a single-mom administrative assistant to a national practice management consultant, helping hundreds of doctors and their staff build multi-million dollar practices. Over the last 27 years, her commitment to best practices and leadership excellence has been key to her success and longevity in highly male dominated industries. Sheila serves as CEO and Founder of Principle Transport Group – a national transportation and logistics services company and JA Jackson Construction – a Texas best, industrial and commercial construction company. Most recently, she has been nominate for FW Inc Magazine 2018 Entrepreneur of Excellence Award and was named 2017 Fort Worth Woman of the Year for The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, started The Sheila A. Jackson Co. – a speaking and personal development business helping women increase their potential, maximize their capacity and experience success in the areas of life they most desire and is finishing up her new book, Renegade Women “Right” the Rules, Your Life on Your Terms, set to be released in the spring of 2018.

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