Since I can remember, I’ve always had an enormous amount of affection for Audrey Hepburn, and would often seek out words of wisdom from young Audrey’s quotes. Like most young women, my biggest aim is to make a positive impression with my looks.

My greatest fear is not having a striking enough appearance; my most time-consuming “artwork” is on my hair and face. As an adolescent, I desire for the answer of how to be more “beautiful”.

However, after reading four quotes from Audrey, and discovering the life lessons in terms of beauty that all women should embrace, my answer has been found, my perspective transformed, my worries have lessened, my confidence has increased, my insecurity has vanished, and my smile has brightened.

1. “The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figures that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.” In this quote, I acknowledged woman’s beauty is encompassed within her soul and is presented in, what I refer to as “The 3 M’s”: morals, manners, and mindset. Good morals and being well mannered are two of the most important keys of beauty etiquette. Morals and manners provide a lady-like persona, but also strength. They also provide one with a sense of respect, to oneself and others; and a sense of confidence. Confidence is often referred to as the most attractive quality a woman (and man) can have. The belief a woman has in her own beauty and worth will prevent the questioning of her beauty from others.

2. “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” Reading this quote was simply a huge, much-needed reminder that the assets of a woman’s personality are much greater than the assets of a woman’s physical body. A good spirit and kindness are two of the greatest characteristics a woman can have. Beauty isn’t found in criticism, hypocrisy, malice and judgment, but in abundance of compassion and good will. A true legacy isn’t attained by whether you are a size 2, or the have a perfect beach tan, but by the footprint you leave behind, created from your generosity and performance.

3. “There is more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness.” Though this isn’t a particular problem for me, it is for some. The lesson taught from this quote is very important for all women. I believe the strongest sex appeal is self-confidence. A woman shouldn’t have to prove her self worth through her actions in a bedroom, but through the actions of her heart. A woman should never feel obligated to be in a man’s bedroom, in order to feel wanted.

4. “Happy girls are the prettiest girls.” This is the most simple of them all. Beauty lies in the happiness of a woman. A smile is more beautiful than any curve on a woman’s body.

Audrey Hepburn has always been my biggest idol. While one of the most talented actresses of her time, her confidence and the lessons she has taught me through her writings are far more important. True beauty comes from the heart.