Justifying Our Actions- Stop the Pattern

Posted by Marilyn Suey | Jul 17, 2023 | Career & Money | 0 |

Justifying Our Actions- Stop the Pattern

Justification

When was the last time you found yourself reaching for another cookie because you had a long day and deserved it? If it is not a cookie, then a slice of pizza or another glass of wine. We are constantly justifying our actions to appeal to someone’s expectations. If not your own, then a partner, friend, colleague, or societal expectations. Do not let these sway your decisions.

Why are self-justifications made? People have a plethora of excuses when it comes to difficult tasks. Why did you Doordash pizza instead of cooking tonight? Oh, because there wasn’t enough time! In reality, these justifications only save face to portray ourselves in a positive light. It’s okay not to be perfect. Stop making justifications of your actions to fit another person’s opinions.

Now onto others. We all know that one person who has an excuse for everything. When we justify their behavior it only solidifies who we want them to be. Not who they actually are. Discover what their true intentions are.

Confidence

The key to overcoming self-justification is to make decisions with confidence. Do not second-guess yourself, or let others alter your opinions. Once you determine the reasons behind your decisions, be clear and concise. Use explanations and be direct. We have a right to make our own decisions, even if they turn out to be wrong. Stop your own self-justification. Lining morals up with personal actions will make you feel more content with yourself. This will help you see people for their true actions, not excuses.

Justifying our actions is only needed to save ourselves from embarrassment. Explain your reasoning, even if that means humbling yourself. Stay true to your morals and the rest will fall in line. Just remember to be yourself—through and through.

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About The Author

Marilyn Suey

Marilyn Suey is a nationally recognized Financial Educator, Author, Speaker, and Wealth Manager. She has a deep passion for supporting her clients who are business owners, entrepreneurs and health care professionals to build their businesses, as well as to design their personal financial blueprint that can help guide them on the road toward financial independence. Marilyn’s specialization lies in the cross-section of general management/leadership, finance, and marketing providing her clients customized strategies and solutions to define and design their personal financial blueprint. The blueprint process includes planning for Wealth Accumulation; Wealth Protection; and Wealth Preservation, 3 key milestone goals on your journey toward financial independence. In addition, Marilyn is building a community, called “Savvy Women”, to provide education, awareness, community and collaboration among women who are liked minded. She started with a small group of women in mid 2015 and now has expanded that first group to well over 100 members. She is actively collaborating with other women leaders to deliver value added information such that this community can take control of their work, their wealth and their worth, (Please see reference to book below) She works closely with a select team of advocates and specialists, who are attorneys, CPAs, Mortgage Advisors, and Property and Casualty Advisors, among others to support her clients’ goals and objectives. She is a successful private investor and manages a tri-generation family portfolio of investments. Marilyn has held senior executive roles in the technology industry, including several start-up companies; one that achieved public company status; and another that was acquired by an international telecommunications company. Her 30 years of corporate experience have provided her the management insight to be an advisor to her clients and their families. Marilyn is a life-long learner; from her dual degrees in Applied Math and Economics from the University of California at Berkeley, to her MBA from the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania to earning her CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER TM designation. MEMBERSHIPS AND AFFILIATIONS Member, Financial Planning Association and Northern California Planned Giving Council Non-Profit Board Member Senior Services Northern California, affiliated with the Northern California Presbyterian Homes and Services Books “36 Quick Tips for Savvy Women-Taking Control of Your Work; Your Wealth; Your Worth” Marilyn Suey is a registered representative with, and securities offered through LPL Financial, Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Strategic Wealth Advisors Group, LLC, a registered investment advisor. Strategic Wealth Advisors Group, LLC. and The Diamond Group Wealth Advisors are separate entities from LPL Financial. CA Insurance License #0E01981 For our 2nd opinion service, please contact Marilyn at Marilyn.suey@diamondgroupwealthadvisors.com.

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