Two weeks before Christmas tends to be one of the biggest breakup times of the year.
One of the studies that show the high breakup trends this time of year is from a study by David McCandless. He conducted his study through Facebook relationship postings and algorithms.
Many people consider Christmas the happiest time of the year, while others experience the tragic side.
As the holidays draw near, people are filled with expectations of what love and romance looks like and how loved ones should be treated.
Hallmark movies, jewelry store commercials and other heart-warming Christmas shows bombard our minds and provide us with guidelines of love and romance, making our hearts yearn for that glorious feeling.
If our loved one is not sending us those warm romantic signals we expect, or our friends are asking, “So when are you getting a ring?” We may start to feel holiday pressure that can be like kindling, and fuel the slow deterioration of an already trouble relationship.
Expectations can be about gifts we want to receive; which holiday parties to attend; commitment expectations and pressure from family and friends.
We know how committed to the relationship we are, but we may question our partners commitment level if they are not sending us the signals we need and desire.
Many couples receive so much pressure throughout the holidays they stubbornly decide the relationship is not worth the hassle. They may be unsure how they really feel about their partner; and the constant pressure from everyone convinces them the relationship is not what they want.
Someone that is not sure about long-term commitment and is feeling pressured is more likely to want to get out before purchasing a costly gift, or a making a long-term commitment.
Family can become a barrier between couples as well. The phrase “you never want to spend time with my family”; and “we are always with your family”. Are common phrases muttered between holiday couples?
Tips on keeping your relationship strong during holiday stress:
1. Communication: Holidays stir insecurities; so communication becomes “key” to a healthy relationship. If you are confused or hurt about anything, ask in a “non–defensive manner” and clarify so nothing remains misunderstood.
2. Unrealistic Expectations: Be sure you do not create unrealistic expectations for your partner. No pressure on a holiday for engagements, major life events. Etc. Both of you can relax and enjoy the holidays without expectations.
3. Relaxation Time: Have time during the holidays for just the two of you to love each other and have quality time to bond, (separate from holiday festivities).
4. Plan Ahead: The more organized you are upfront, the more smoothly your holidays will flow. You will have time for both families, each other and time to get it all done.
Holidays are a time for happiness, love, sharing and caring. They can also be a very stressful and heartbreaking time for those that are in a relationship that was not stand the test of time.
Remember when one door closes another one opens; always love yourself and know life offers you new opportunities.
