“Believe in yourself, your abilities, and your own potential. Never let self-doubt hold you captive. You are worthy of all that you dream of and hope for.” ~Roy Bennett
The biggest barrier to having true confidence is your mindset. You can’t control how others think or feel about you, so why let that affect your confidence? The key to building lasting confidence lies in shifting your perspective and to stop making comparisons.
Comparison
Often, we feel “behind” in life or envious of those who are accomplishing different things. But those kinds of upward comparisons are incredibly unfair to you. We only see brief glimpses of people’s lives, and most of the time, those glimpses are overwhelmingly positive. We don’t know another person’s lived experience or the sacrifices they made to achieve their goals. Everyone’s lives are so different, especially with things that we can or, more often, cannot control. Let yourself live and be a human. Instead, see others as sources of motivation and growth. Your goal isn’t to be better than someone else—it’s to be better than you were yesterday.
Criticizing
You’re often your toughest critic, noticing things no one else even sees—like small stains on your clothes or imperfect posture. But here’s the truth: these imperfections are normal and often don’t matter to anyone but you. When you nitpick and criticize yourself, you hold yourself back from living and enjoying the moment. Instead, embrace a growth mindset. Tell yourself, “I can handle this,” even when it feels difficult. Reframe your inner dialogue from “I can’t” to “I’m learning,” and from “I’m not good enough” to “I’m improving every day.” A growth mindset helps you recognize challenges as opportunities to grow, not as threats.
Self-Care
Taking care of your body is another key part of building confidence. When you prioritize your health—eating well, exercising, meditating, and resting—you naturally feel more confident. But remember, growth happens when you focus on all areas of your well-being. Don’t just chase physical fitness; nourish your mind and soul too. At the end of each day, you’re allowed to feel proud of the steps you’ve taken to become your best self.
Finances
Changing your financial mindset is similarly transformative. It begins with shifting from a scarcity mentality—focusing on what you lack—to an abundance mentality, where you recognize opportunities for growth. Reframe your relationship with money; view it as a tool to build the life you desire, rather than a source of stress or limitation. Instead of thinking, “I’ll never have enough,” adopt the belief that, with the right strategies and discipline, you can create and maintain wealth. This positive financial outlook empowers better decision-making, fosters confidence in your abilities, and opens doors to new opportunities for investment, saving, and financial independence.
True confidence comes from adopting a positive outlook and growth mindset. It’s about knowing that you’re not defined by where you are today, but by the progress you’re making. So, start showing up with belief in yourself—even if it feels uncomfortable. People are naturally attracted to those who radiate confidence and positivity. Walk into every room with the mindset that you belong there, because you do. Believe in your ability to grow and watch how quickly your confidence follows.
Marilyn Suey
CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER ®
Certified Plan Fiduciary Advisor®
Accredited Investment Fiduciary®
Certified Exit Planning Advisor®
marilyn.suey@diamondgroupwealthadvisors.com
Marilyn Suey is a Registered Representative with, and securities and Retirement Plan Consulting Program advisory services offered through LPL Financial, a registered investment advisor, member FINRA/SIPC. Other advisory services offered through Mariner Independent Advisor Network, LLC a Registered Investment Advisor. The Diamond Group Wealth Advisors and Mariner Independent Advisor Network, LLC are separate entities from LPL Financial.CA Insurance License #0E01981
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Marilyn is the Founder and CEO of The Diamond Group Wealth Advisors. She is a nationally recognized Financial Educator, Author, Speaker, and Wealth Manager, who you may have seen in NBC, ABC, CBS and FOX network affiliates and Yahoo News, Wall Street Journal’s Market Watch, Wall Street Select and others. Marilyn and her team at The Diamond Group Wealth Advisors have been showing business owners, healthcare professionals, and executives how to accumulate, preserve, and pass on their wealth for almost 20 years. Marilyn developed The Prosperity Blue Print™, a five-step wealth planning process, that includes strategy for Wealth Accumulation, Wealth Preservation, and planning for your ideal retirement lifestyle. She founded the Savvy Women Community where she shares her wisdom and experience with like-minded women. She received an MBA from the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and a degree in Applied Math and Economics from UC Berkeley. To schedule your complimentary Lifestyle Upgrade Assessment, call: (925) 219-0080 or email; marilyn.suey@diamondgroupwealthadvisors.com
